There seems to be a misunderstanding about the reasons for my recent decisions. I’ve said my goodbyes and elegized both Sarah Anne and Gabby. I’ve put them both behind me and closed that chapter in my life.
I guess when you do things publicly people start to ponder their own thoughts as to why. Which is fine but some seem to have painted an ugly picture.
First, I say “Sarah Anne” as to not confuse all the other Sarah’s in my life. For example, Sarah “Lil’ Sarah” Cecchini who’s been an awesome, honest and true friend since we were 14. I don’t actually call Sarah Anne by Sarah Anne when I talk to her… unless she was in need of a scolding. :~) Just needed to clarify that.
Second, people seem to lump Sarah Anne and Gabby into the same category. This couldn’t be further from the truth and has left me compelled to clear the air as best as I can.
Though I have made the choice to say goodbye I don’t want anyone to think that I believe Gabby to be a bad person or that she did anything wrong. To this day I love and respect Gabby and will always cherish the times we had together.
No need to cover the reasoning behind Sarah Anne… as everyone is all ready aware.
Unfortunately, for Gabby and me, our friendship came to an impasse. Sometimes life throws you a curve ball and you make decision to deal with them the best way you can. I have always been quick to cut people out of my life and I don’t pretend to believe it’s fair. It just happens to be part of my personality.
I mean hey, everyone has imperfections and defects that mold and shape the people that they are. I’ve never claimed to be perfect or to make the best decisions. I struggle everyday with things that affect me to my core just like everyone else and I have never pretended to be the only person with struggles.
Am I saying I cut Gabby off… no. I didn’t… she slowly removed herself from my life and I just stood by and let it happen. I didn’t stop her… I didn’t ask why… I didn’t even acknowledge it.
She went from calling me everyday to never calling. Emailing me throughout the day… which slowing started to dissipate.
The writing was on the wall and I read it and not once attempted to confront it. Eventually, all communication stopped. It wasn’t the first time and though she made a pinky swear she didn’t hold up her end of the promise. So I didn’t see the point in holding up mine.
If you know me… you know that I’m just me. I say stupid shit, I’m sarcastic, and I don’t genuinely care if I come off abrasive or say things people find inappropriate.
That filter, the ones most people have… the one that says “don’t say that”… well mine is “out of order”. Usually, a thought pops into my head and then before you know it… It’s just coming out of my mouth. I won’t offer an apology for my honesty.
Here’s my point.
Gabby and I just simply stopped talking. I don’t know what her reasons were and I have no energy left in me to figure out why.
Bottom line.
Gabby… good person.
Me... over it.
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